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Put simply, this means that you can enjoy each other's company, share values, interests, friends and extended family, and believe you care, support, understand, and in every way are ‘there' for each other and work together as a team.This friendship needs to be nurtured, because if neglected it will inevitably deteriorate.
We often try to let our partner know how wrong they are by telling them, and as that usually does not work, we then punish them by removing things from the relationship that we know our partner values - for example a man may stop discussing issues with his partner, or a woman may stop showing interest in sex.Individuals act differently to issues such as a retrenchment from a job, death of a parent, infertility, miscarriage, a child's disability, fire or drought, and these differences need to be understood.If couples can support and care for each other, and stand together as a team, working through and recovering from life problems can strengthen a relationship. All relationships face difficulties, and most are resolved over time.It is important that you seek help from someone who is trained and experienced in working with relationships.Most people ask friends for recommendations, and word of mouth is a good way to find help.Differences between partners will always be there as we are all individuals with different values, priorities and ways of dealing with issues.
Examples include attitudes to money, where we like to spend holidays, how much time we spend with extended families and friends, how much time we spend together or alone, how we show our love, how to discipline children, where we send our children to school, how we drive the car, how tidy to keep the house, how much effort goes into buying presents and the list goes on.
However if your partner is reluctant or unwilling to seek help, then it can be very helpful for you to seek help first.
You can't make your partner change, but changes you make can start the domino effect of change for the relationship.
This means couples need to be regularly spending time together doing things, talking about things that matter to each partner, and making plans for the future.
This seems obvious, but work pressures and other personal issues, the demands of parenting, and the general busyness of life mean that we too easily put off spending the necessary time together to stay connected. This is often the case for high achievers, parents of teenagers, or ‘empty nesters' who have neglected their relationship earlier on.
As talking and sex are two important ingredients for feeling close to our partners it is not surprising that both partners end up feeling lonely, despairing and misunderstood.